Emotional Healing Before Pregnancy

While most couples who are trying to conceive actively do want a baby, they may still experience ambivalent feelings towards their efforts. This is often because of a past abortion or miscarriage from which one or both parties has never completely healed. Nothing can describe the sense of loss a parent feels when a child-to-be is lost, whether intentionally or due to natural problems. The loss of a child leaves a parent with frustration, anger, grief, and sadness, and it takes time for these emotions to heal.

The best thing you can do as a potential parent recovering from such a loss is to understand that it's okay for you to feel ambivalent. Although you can heal from the emotions you have now, it will take time. Plus, you'll never completely heal or lose sight of what happened to you, which is also something you'll have to come to terms with.

The first step to healing from these negative emotions is to simply be honest about them. Talk with your partner or with a friend, or journal about your emotions. If you are experiencing very deep struggles and feel as if you cannot overcome these emotions on your own, seek counseling with a professional. Whatever you do, don't try to simply bury the emotions, as the blocked up negative emotions could leave you infertile or cause a host of other problems during pregnancy and your journey of parenting.

Allow yourself to experience your feelings of loss fully, and then move on past those feelings, while still acknowledging that they may be there. It's okay if you still feel sad about a past miscarriage when you happen to think about it, as long as you aren't constantly thinking about it and about what might have been.

Rainbow Babies After Loss

Many parents have experienced a loss and then become pregnant eventually after that loss. These babies after loss - or sometimes after multiple painful losses - are often called "rainbow babies." This is because they follow a time a grief - the rain - and come out of that time of grief. As a parent, you'll never forget the first baby that you lost, but you'll also find new joy in the presence of your rainbow baby.

Preparing for pregnancy emotionally

Any potential parent needs to prepare for the period of pregnancy and the parenthood that follows emotionally, but this journey can be more difficult for those who have experienced deep loss in the past. If you have experienced loss and are struggling to deal with it before becoming pregnant, there are a few steps you can take. One is to simply remind yourself to feel whatever it is that you're naturally feeling each and every day. Another step is to journal regularly so that you can get your feelings out on paper, where they often seem less scary and overwhelming. Finally, again, find someone with whom you can be honest about your feelings so that you can talk about them in order to let them go.

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